15 Thoughts You Have The First Time You Get A Crush On Another Woman
Every time I see a tall, long-haired, blonde, surfer girl I think of Monica, my girl crush. I met her in class my freshmen year and we hit it off immediately. By the second week of class, I found myself being walked half-way to my dorm room by Monica and enjoying myself along the way. It became our routine on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. I had no idea she was a lesbian until one day she mentioned her ex-girlfriend in passing. Soon after, I inevitably started to wonder whether she found me attractive. Then I started questioning myself.
Do you ever see a girl and can't figure out if you wanna be her or kiss her? Hello, this is my daily dilemma, and I'm here to talk it out with you! Crushing on a girl can lead to a casual existential crisis, but it doesn't have to be too terrifying. Let me clue you in to a top secret memo from Planet Queer: We all start off with absolutely no idea how to deal with our feelings, but this improves with a lot of mistakes and some intense pop music-scored angst sessions for the record, Haim is really good for this —and, you know, conversations with friends. Consider me your queer big sister!
The term "girl crush" gets thrown around a lot, usually because people want to be able to say, "I am totally in love with this girl! Like, in a gay way. But what if you're not sure which category you fall into? What if you identify as heterosexual, or thought you did, but you're having some feelings that might be described as more-than-friendly for your female friend?