Have a question? Email her at dear. My husband and I have been married for 30 years and have a mostly happy, friendly, and supportive relationship. His interest in sexual relations declined after our children were born and came to a full stop five years ago. I have asked him to go to therapy with me on multiple occasions over the past five years. He considered it several times but always declined, stating he just had no interest in a physical relationship.
What To Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Have Sex
Research suggests that sexual satisfaction plays a pivotal role in healthy relationships according to research, but there are a number of factors that can influence the quality of a couple's sex life as well as individual sexual desire over the course of a relationship. It may a short-term problem related to stress at work or other issues that have driven your partner to distraction. Even more commonly, a sudden, hectic schedule—ranging from end-of-year exams to a do-or-die work deadline—can leave your partner exhausted and uninterested in anything more than sleep or a night in front of the TV. While dry spells like these are common and usually resolve on their own once things stabilize, a prolonged and unexplained disinterest in sex can be harmful to a relationship and the general well-being of both partners. Not only can this stir feelings of frustration and self-doubt but it may also leave you wondering whether this may be your first step toward a sexless marriage. It is not an entirely unfounded concern; research suggests that the amount of sex people are having is on the decline. According to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, American adults are having less sex, regardless of their gender, race, or marital status.
Dear Therapist: My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex Anymore
Is he unhappy? Is he having an affair? Life can get hectic, and as a result, sex can hit the backburner. Especially if you have kids, it might not be top of mind for him to come home from work and initiate sex right away. The key here is normalizing the fact that your priorities are bound to change throughout the course of your lifetimes.
Life happens, which means dry spells happen, am I right? No biggie—unless that dry spell morphs into more of a, well, severe drought. Can't remember the last time you wanted to have sex with your husband or partner? Factors like stress, time, and kids can seriously zap your sex drive. That said, you shouldn't just give up on your sex life forever.